If you're unable to bring a healthy sense of self-love into them you will always be seeking validation and end up disappointed by your expectations of others.” ― Nanette Mathews tags: compassion, endurance, external, friends, friendship, happiness, hardship, heaviness, help, hope, inspirational, internal-validation, joy, life, life-lessons, love, loyalty, motivational, persistence, personal-development, poetry, presence, sad, self-love, teaching, unconditional, validation, wisdom “The most powerful and courageous heroes I know are those who bite their tongues when justification, validation, temptation, or vengeance would have them strike with truthful, hurtful words.” ― Richelle E.
Goodrich, “Some time ago, my son Emilio was going back to school after vacation.
In the middle of the macho posturing and the My First Anarchist Manifesto, it so neatly captures the angst of people who recognize that there’s something missing in their lives and not knowing what the hell to do about it.
We feel confused and lost and directionless and so we try to cover it all up by getting obsessed with things that we don’t actually care about but feel like we should and buy crap we don’t really need because we feel like it gives us an identity that we so desperately lack.
tags: being-single, dating, goals, hard-to-get, holding-out-for-the-best, love, loving-yourself, not-settling, playing-hard-to-get, positive-thinking, relationships, single, single-life, single-woman, singleness, standards, the-single-woman, validation “Trauma is personal. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive.
When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, tags: captive, childhood-trauma, emotional-abuse, freedom, healing, healing-the-emotional-self, invalidate, lies, love, love-heals, marginalized, pain, ptsd, screams, screams-of-agony, silent-pain, trauma, validation “She ran straight into Leo’s open arms, unable to stop the tears from falling, feeling at last defended, like a single musical note that had finally found the symphony to which it belonged.” ― Natasha Lester, tags: acceptance, believe-in-yourself, eating-disorder-recovery, feelings, focus-on-positive, love-yourself, mantra, mental-health, mindfulness, no-judgment, one-step-at-a-time, positive-quotes, positive-thinking, present-moments, recovery, repeat, self-help, self-improvement, self-love, thoughts, validation, you-are-enough, you-are-important “When we accept the labels placed on us by ourselves and others, we then restrict and limit ourselves based on those labels.
We become convinced that we’re in love and we try over and over again to prove ourselves, to show the objects of our affection, that we are worthy of their love and attention.
Things we have thought to be good, beautiful, wise, or evil may not look the same as we grow.
Because we are evolving, growing beings and because we move through clear stages of development, what we hold to be important may change over the course of our lives, and so, Two year olds have little understanding and less perspective on the world.
If we ratify who we are based on what others tell us about who we are, we validate or confirm our sense of self and identity externally.
On the other hand if we corroborate our sense of self based on what we internally conclude about our sense of self and identity, we have validated ourselves internally.